When someone you love seems to be struggling, it can be hard to know what to say, or whether to say anything at all. You may worry about making things worse. But asking directly and with care can help. The behavioral health team at WellBridge Fort Worth is here to help families navigate these concerns.
If you are in crisis now:
- Call or text 988 for free, confidential support 24/7.
- Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room if there is immediate danger.
What Are the Warning Signs of Suicide?
Warning signs in someone you love are changes in what they say, feel, or do. They may appear suddenly or build over time. Common warning signs include:
- Talking about wanting to die, feeling hopeless or trapped, or being in unbearable pain
- Saying they are a burden or that others would be better off without them
- Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities they once enjoyed
- Giving away treasured belongings or saying goodbye to people
- Major changes in sleep, eating, or energy
- Increased use of alcohol or drugs
- Acting anxious, agitated, angry, or unusually reckless
- Extreme mood swings
- Looking for ways to harm themselves or talking about a plan
- A sudden sense of calm after a long period of deep sadness
Warning signs can be especially concerning after a painful loss, serious diagnosis, breakup, financial hardship, or other major life change.
Why Can a Sudden Calm Be a Warning Sign?
A sudden change in mood after a long period of despair can sometimes be a warning sign. It does not always mean someone is in immediate danger, but it is a reason to check in, ask directly about suicide, and seek help if you are concerned.
Trust your instincts. You do not need to be certain before you reach out.
How Do I Ask Someone if They Are Thinking About Suicide?
Ask directly and calmly. Asking about suicide does not put the idea in someone’s mind. It can open the door to an honest conversation. You might say: “I have noticed you seem really down lately, and I care about you. Are you thinking about suicide?”
Then listen. Let them talk without interrupting, arguing, judging, or rushing to fix the problem. Avoid statements such as “You have so much to live for” or “Think about your kids.” Even when said with love, these comments can make a person feel unheard.
What Should I Do if They Say Yes?
Stay calm. Thank them for telling you, and stay with them if you can.
- Take what they say seriously, and do not promise to keep it secret
- Stay with them, or make sure a trusted person can stay with them
- Call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, together. It is free, confidential, and available 24/7
- Call or text 988 yourself if you need guidance on helping someone you are worried about
- Help them connect with professional care, and offer to go with them to an appointment
Call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room if they have a plan, have access to a way to harm themselves, have already hurt themselves, or may be in immediate danger.
What if They Deny It but I Am Still Worried?
Sometimes people say they are fine even when you remain concerned. Keep the door open. You might say: “Okay. I am here whenever you want to talk, and I am going to keep checking on you.”
Keep checking in. You can also share your concern with another trusted person and encourage your loved one to speak with a doctor, counselor, or behavioral health professional. You do not have to carry the worry alone, and you do not need their permission to ask for guidance about how to help.
Keep Showing Up and Getting Support
Support does not end after one conversation. Check in regularly—in person, by phone, or by text. A shared meal, a ride to an appointment, or a simple “I’m thinking of you” message can remind someone that they are not alone.
Take care of yourself, too. Supporting someone in crisis can feel heavy. Talking with a counselor or another trusted support person can help.
If you are worried about someone you love, call or text 988 for support and guidance. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. To learn about counseling, crisis support, and behavioral health services, contact WellBridge Fort Worth in Fort Worth, Texas.
This article is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.